The beginning of the year is characterized by various
efforts to make lifestyle changes in line with better health, emotional status,
business achievements and many other goals. As the end of January approaches, many
will have fallen off the wagon already and either returned to their old ways or
simply given up because “it is too hard”. Here are some thoughts to help you go
for the long haul:
It is brave and commendable to move away
from something unhealthy
Realising that you have some unhealthy habits or
relationships is in fact the first step towards success. Most people remain in
denial and nurse their toxic habits and relationship to their detriment. Having
the courage to call it what it is and choosing to move away from it deserves
praise. I have been in unhealthy relationships and my observation is that it is
easier to rationalise and come up with all forms of excuses than it is to admit
that the status quo is not working for my good. We all make mistakes and can
learn a lot from them as long as we are not denying th
em.Stumbling only becomes a problem when you stop rising
If anyone ever told you it is easy to get rid of an old
habit, they lied. Habits are sometimes called second nature. We are so used to
doing things a certain way that it is automatic in many instances. We have
learnt to cope with life in certain ways. Some people have been a part of our
lives for so long even our sense of identity is tied to them. Remember this;
the best way to get rid of a habit is to replace it with another. But even
then, it takes a while to get used to new habits. Consistency is the secret. Do
not be hard on yourself. Remain determined, set small goals that you can
achieve daily and before you know it, you will have replaced the old
undesirable habits. If you are walking away from a toxic relationship, remind
yourself why you left every time you start having thoughts to return.
Separation syndrome works an illusion that only recalls the good things about
someone. Remember, you left them for the ugly things.
You are responsible for your life
There is always the temptation to blame someone or something
for failing to make your desired changes stick. Be a champion and refuse to
play the blame game! If one strategy is not working, find another. Read around
your area of struggle and find how other people have managed to make it work.
There is nothing new under the sun; at least as far as our lifestyle issues are
concerned. Someone somewhere has faced the same challenge and found a way out.
There is more than enough resource in you to slay your giant. You only need the
right strategy.
Fear of the unknown is paralyzing
Two thoughts
afflict the minds of people leaving toxic relationships.
“How can I
leave a relationship that has lasted so long?”
“How do I know
if I will find someone better next time?”
This is your
life, right now! It is not a rehearsal for the real thing. When your clock
ticks end, that’s it! You deserve to be happy and you do not have to settle for
second best or even fifth best. There is a life that consists of pure joy and
peace. Do not squander your days in negative, unfulfilling, harmful and even
degrading relationships. Second chances are for those that take a chance. This
world is full of positive people. You only need a positive attitude to find
them!
Pray
Prayer gives you access to what the will of God is for your
life. His will is for you to prosper in all things. His will is for you to
rejoice always and to live a life of thanksgiving. He desires that you succeed.
With God, all things are possible. Success is yours!
